I want to share a bit about my
experience and may your experience as well. I am sure that you faced this
before in your life. Did you think that other people is better than yourself,
or other opinion is more important than your opinion, or you confuse to decide
something? Surely you have passed this even. We are social’s life and we always
interact with other people and even we are a center of their attention.
When we are move to other place,
from small city to big city, we feel different condition and social’s life. In
big city, we will face more attractive social’s life and modern information and
technology and also curious about it. I think everyone will be tempted about
modern life there. But the matter is how strong we are that be able to
survive in a condition that doesn't
allow us to follow it all.
A man was allowed by his parents
to study and pursuit his dream in a big city, then he must responsible and do it
right as his parents wish. He will face new life, new condition and new
environment. He will be independent living and far from his family, may he will
get hard for adaptation with new environment and even it will not match his
life before. He will face more
temptation that influence his mind and his social’s life. It is so lucky if he
can consider between negative and positive influence, he can filter which one
is good, and unfortunately if he takes all these influences, then he break his purpose
and family wishes before. So, he must has faith and focus on his goal to study
in big city, then he will far from negative influences, even he is able to hold
his lust to have expensive items or things that are not supposed to be held
today. Indeed, at this age is his time to find identity his life, to get
prestige and perfect life that they see only in term of material. But for
student who has a clear purpose is able to see condition and decide what decent
and right for his life.
When a boss gains the trust from
his company to manage and work his duty properly. The great and confidence boss
will not easy to get influence by other. He will not influence about negative
issues by his staff, he will not humiliate to take advantage and things that are
not his. A wise and great boss will be able to consider and decide which one is
good or bad to do, even he is able to influence his employee to be great
employee and do work with honest and responsibility.
People who have trust to his
friend will not be easy to be influenced by other bad opinion about his friend
because he trusts and be able to choose and consider positive and negative view
about his friend. An employee always worries people's view about her life. She
always asks opinion and suggestion about her acts and her needs, even other
doesn't know her needs, just because of fear about gossip, then she is not
respect to herself as a great person.
More effort we can do to break
away from influence of other. The first, the self-confident, this shows that we
have ability to do everything with our potential that we have. If we have
self-confident for every action, then we will difficult to be influenced by
other. The second, be familiar ourselves, if we know well who we are, what our
purpose is, how our potential is, then we are able to choose and decide which
one is decent influence will be accepted and rejected. We can read motivation
and inspirational book, we can watch motivation and inspirational video to
explore and be familiar with our potential.
The third, think that ourselves
is so important, it means always give full attention for ourselves to act, talk
and positive attitude. Then, other opinion about us is only second choices.
This view is not mean selfish, but just think that we are able to share
goodness for other by ourself.
The fourth is trainee ourself be
a manager, this is not mean we must apply to be a manager in a company, but in
our daily activity we must be able to manage our time, manage our activity,
manage our financial even trivial things and the most important is able to
decide something that not give bad effect for us and other in same time. The
fifth, appreciate the environment as form of learning so that we are able to
explore our potential to join with social’s life. More things that we can do to
far away from influence of other that gives negative effect for our life.
The fact we cannot remove the
influence of other or the influence of environment because every character and
social's life has more variation and may give positive effect for us. But it
depends on us how to view, filter and choose the good influences and throw away
the bad influences that just waste our opportunity to be great person.
So, can we do it??? The answer is
YES WE CAN!!!
All decision is in our hand.
by MEYF
^_^
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