We were created by God and we have an excess the mind and
the heart than other living things. So lucky we are, if we are able to use both
of them in the right condition. We cannot avoid to live alone and we need other
people to interact each other. Every day we exchange ideas and sharing each
other pertaining to life. We feel what they feel although we face the condition
that is inconsistent with us at that time. So, in this case we need mind and
heart to maintain and control our emotional.
In our life, we couldn't separate from debate or argue with other. We will think this word “debate” is too hard and usually face in academics or officials that we often see on TV. The fact we often do debate for various topics with our family member, friends or colleague. It begins from low topic about our experience into serious topic such as about the world and its problems.
My opinion about debating with others are not to show that I
am powerful, I know first than you, I am the person who must be respect first
by you. But for me, debating is the way to exchange mind with others. Maybe
they have more knowledge than me. And, the end of debating does not mean to
find the winner or the loser, but to find the solution and new good information
that we can combine with our opinion, so it will be useful for others in
public. We would not be respected if we aren't able to respect others, it is
the same in debating. If we hope our opinion will be respected or accepted by
them, we must respect them first without egotism and underestimate their
opinion.
When we are debating, we must know with whom we argue. We
must know their character, their background and their education, and through
this, we will understand them and we are able to deal with good debating. We
must consider the time and the condition of debating. If we debate in forum or
public, we should do elegant debate without bad emotional like fist fighting.
We should use our logic, heart and professional opinions. It is not an
appropriate use of words that strike such as “You are wrong!” or “You don't
understand what we are talking about!” or any words that is annoying others
when we are debating. Do debating with intelligent and smart arguments and not
fist fights. At least the way we talk to show who we are a whole of
intelligent, smart, emotional and mentality.
When I worked at private company, at the minutes of meeting,
we faced debating and sometime we didn't have good result. Have you heard about the proverb of Indonesia
“Sing Waras Ngalah”, it means the smart and intelligent people shouldn't
continue badly debating and give in to it. It doesn't mean we are a loser, it
shows maturity in accepting the opinions of others, even though we know that
their opinion is not appropriate, it just for a while, believe that the truth
will inevitably occur. We don't decide to find who the winner and the loser
except for competition of debating in academic. But we debate to find the
solution and to get the new information. If the condition forces to let their
opinion to be accepted as a winner, let it be. This means we are the great man
who has big hearts and be a winner for them. It doesn't mean we are a loser,
but the fact we are a winner for them. Is that not the rich people are able to
make other be rich because they had what the people have not owned.
For me in some conditions, I strict for debating, and it is
fair if we face someone who couldn't be able to introspection themselves about
their egotism in debating. This doesn't mean we drop them in public, but to
remind them about their bad habit in debating. Introspection ourselves, know
the character, and mastering the topics are the key of debating doing well and
give the appropriate solutions.
So, now we should correct ourselves before we argue with
others so that they don't feel underestimate and be offended, we should give
the right decision and useful for others. Give in to debate are the winner, because the
winner to give a win for other, and don't worry, believe that the truth will
inevitably occur.
By MEYF
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