In 2009, surely you ever watched a movie about a shopaholic
girl that is crazy shopping woman. She is hard to resist the urge or temptation
to not spend her money. This movie story was taken from novel written by Sophie
Kinsella, “Shopaholic Takes Manhattan”. The first time, I watched this movie on
2009, it was a comedy movie and more lesson that I got on it. This movie is
nearly same with “The Devil Wears Prada” about fashion. The Confession of
Shopaholic, there is a twenty-five old woman, names Rebecca Bloomwood and she
lives with her friend, Suze. She is a writer in Finance Magazine. But her life
is not accordance with what she wrote. She cannot control to not spend more
money to buy the things. She is a shopaholic woman, addicted to buying things.
She is not able to eliminate this bad habit, for the consequence, she gets
badly financial. She has high debt of credit card and her salary is not enough
to fill her life. Rebecca face more process to thinking adult. She falls in
love to a man, she works in new company and finally able to be not shopaholic
woman. Now, I will not discuss this movie story because we can watch online on
youtube.com.
Last time, I had discussed with some people and this is my
experience as well, why shopaholic occured and why I was shopaholic (symptom) before I get
married. The meaning of shopaholic formed by shop=buy a thing and aholic=the
habit that is not able to resist the urge either realize or not. So, shopaholic is a person considered to be
addicted to shopping, they are not be able to resist the temptation to shopping
and shopping, then they waste time and
money although they realize that doesn't need it. About 90% the shopaholic are
women and the other hand men are shopaholic as well.
There are some symptoms of shopaholic, feeling satisfied
while shopping for not the needed and feeling regret after bought it. The
shopaholic has a lot of things, but they rare and even never use its. They buy
for pleasure and to make them satisfied for a while. They are not able to hold
their money and credit card, they need to spend it more to get things that not
useful for them. Even they lie to other about their money that has been spent
on shopping.
More causes shopaholic
occurs. When the stress comes and excessive anxiety about something,
then they will go to outside to public center or mall, it was originally only
intended for refreshing, but ultimately they buy things that are not
needed. Other side, they haven't
responsible for their actions and never think what the impact or consequence.
Similarly decide to buy things without thinking about the benefit, even though
the things purchased were not needed. Then, they have low self-confidence and
their hedonic life with perception that the human having will be respect
because of their richness and their material. They want to be seen great and OK
in front of other people to maintain prestige because of material. More
negative impact will occur for shopaholic, high loan, stress and financial
pressure, fire from the job, more crime even kill themselves.
The few things that we can do to solve this and I was
already doing to not buy things that are not needed. The key is a strong desire to change this
habit. We must be able to determine whether the things that we need and whether
the things that we want. We must change our mind to not buy for unused things,
and try to rethink again for shopping. Write the financial plan per month
and analyze the financial report about what it has been spent before. When we
stress, do the positive moment such as sleep, take a rest, stay and having fun
with family or doing some hobby (not shopping). If shopaholic is already
high-level, then should go to the psychologist to overcome with Cognitive
Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and relaxation therapies that help them overcome the
thoughts and behaviors that are not rational and prevent them to not continuous
shopping habit.
Hopefully this is useful. :)
by MEYF